Thank You Day!

Thank You Day!!

Disclaimer: I did not write this article which was just too good to pass up and not share with you. So taken in it entirety, except for some tiny illustrations I present to you “World Thank You Day!”  Thank often, Say often!

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World Thank you day

The politest date in the year is January 11.
This day is observed as international thank you day.
We all realize the importance of good manners in our life, but most thanks we say without thinking about the sense of the words.
Meanwhile, according to psychologists, words of thanks are magic in a way. They have warming and comforting effect if you say them sincerely and from the bottom of your heart. So let’s stay truly considerate and kind!
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Interesting facts about saying Thank You:
Scientists performed an experiment in which they asked one group of people to write down the things that they were grateful for on a weekly basis, while the other group recorded hassles or neutral life events.
The folks who kept gratitude journals exercised more regularly, reported fewer physical symptoms, felt better about their lives as a whole, and were generally more optimistic about the upcoming week – compared to their negatively focused counterparts.
A recent study found that after receiving gratitude, participants noticed that their partner was more responsive to their needs and overall more satisfied with their relationship. Gratitude was shown to have had a long-term effect that was seen six to nine months later.
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One of the phrases we use quite often is “thank you.” Some words are said so often that at times, they may lose their meaning.
According to research by psychologists Adam Grant and Francesca Gino, a thank you can go a long way.
Especially if you are in a supervisory position, expressing your thanks for a job well done can make your employees feel a strong sense of self-worth and confidence. The study also revealed that being grateful has a ripple effect, leading to an increase in trust between colleagues and more initiative to help one another out.
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Psychologist and researcher Jeffrey Froh created and implemented a gratitude curriculum for kids aged 8 to 11. The youngsters who received the lessons showed an increase in grateful thinking, appreciation and positive emotions as compared to their classmates who did not partake.
Scientists studying positive psychology found that a one-time act of thoughtful gratitude produced an immediate 10% increase in happiness and 35% reduction in depressive symptoms.
The happy effects disappeared within three to six months which shows that gratitude is an act to be repeated again and again.
Source: goodnet.org
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Here You Go!

Here You Go!

It’s no secret. If there’s any remark that makes me cringe, it would be: “Here you go!”

Yes, we usually hear it in fast food restaurants, fast food drive-thru, and other places of perceived inexpensive, generally not too sophisticated places of commerce, where a food server hands over your meal without much ado.

But then again, it’s not so much the place of commerce that such remarks demean the customer and the customer-experience but also how such unthinking remarks subtly cheapen the place of commerce.

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All rights reserved: Kanda Lunchwagon, a family-run eatery in Kewalo Basin, Honolulu, Hawaii served one of the best array of plate lunches hands down for over 40-years. Photo shows the production line ready to be filled with customer entrees. With each plate lunch, they always thanked their customers! They retired in 2003.

On a side note: I’ve been patron to street side vendors who glady say: Thank you for your time and purchase. And like you, it surely made me feel like a million bucks, and it makes the street vendor a glorious, magnificent connoisseur who brings me back time and time again.

On those rare occasions where I purchase a fast food, which i might add isn’t cheap anymore, which means, I work hard for the medium of exchanging hard cash for hard food, usually because I am exhausted from work; or I am down to my last $10 it would be so nice to hear the cashier say instead: Thank You!

Actually, the expenditure of energy of saying two simple words: Thank You! goes a lot farther than those creepy three words; “Here you go!”

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The latter makes me feel like a dog being thrown a bone! No disrespect intended to dogs world-wide because they deserve more credit than humans’ give them. Likewise, customers too deserve some warm and fuzzy feeling of being appreciated!

The capacity to say: Thank You! somehow implies that the person expressing it is usually intelligent, polite, caring, giving and appreciative.

Or that’s what I want so desperately to believe because I think it implies a bit about myself when i say, “thank you.” You know, do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

A side perspective: “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. A command based on words of Jesus in the Sermon on the Mount: ‘All things whatsoever ye would that men should do to youdo ye even so to them.’

The Mosaic law contains a parallel commandment: “Whatever is hurtful to youdo not do to any other person.”

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So, I believe being the recipient of an appreciative , “Thank You!” goes a lot farther in showing appreciation than, “Here you go!”   Arf! Arf! Arf!

Let’s take a look at this simple word phrase: “Thank you.

As long as it’s word recorded in History, we can be asssured, it’s origin goes back a bit. This all means, it’s likely an expression of humans in their inter-relationships with others.

Thank (v.)

Old English þancianþoncian “to give thanks, thank, to recompense, to reward,” from Proto-Germanic *thankōjanan (source also of Old Saxon thancon, Old Norse þakka, Danish takke, Old Frisian thankia, Old High German danchon, Middle Dutch, Dutch, German danken “to thank”), from *thankoz “thought; gratitude,” from PIE root *tong- “to think, feel.”

It is related phonetically to think as song is to sing; for sense evolution, compare Old High German minna “loving memory,” originally “memory.” Also compare related Old English noun þancþonc, originally “thought,” but also “good thoughts, gratitude.” In ironical use, “to blame,” from 1550s. To thank (someone) for nothing is recorded from 1703. Related: Thankedthanking.

Source: https://www.etymonline.com/word/thank

So if someone is thankful, what if they’re, well….thankless?   Let’s find out.

Thankless (adj.)

“likely to not be rewarded with thanks,” 1540s, from thank + -less. Related: Thanklesslythanklessness.

Source: https://www.etymonline.com/word/thankless

Is being thankless being rude?  Or just dumb?

Maybe this might cue us in.

Rude (adj.)

late 13c., “coarse, rough” (of surfaces), from Old French ruide (13c.) or directly from Latin rudis“rough, crude, unlearned,” a word of uncertain etymology, related to rudus “rubble.” The usual preferred derivation is that it is from the same source as Latin rufus “red” (see rufous) via a notion of raw (“red”) meat, but de Vaan points out “there is not a shimmer of a meaning ‘red’ in rudis or in rudus ‘rubble’, so that the supposed shift from ‘crude (meat)’ > ‘crude’ rests in the air.”

Sense of “ill-mannered, uncultured; uneducated, uncultured” is from mid-14c. Rude boy (also rudie, for short) in Jamaican slang is attested from 1967. Figurative phrase rude awakening is attested from 1895.

Saying Thank You often, willingly helps us along and help smoooth the roughness of life!

NExt up: A short post on THANK YOU DAY!!

Disclaimer: In my youth and young adult life, I worked in fast food as a fry cook, I worked in a world-class hotel restaurant in both kitchen and dining room floor, and I’ve worked in local, and national retail stores serving customers. In these demanding environments, all workers learn by example. Some just have a natural ability to give unconditionally. I believe in these people and their strong customer service.

It’s All Good When We’re Sorry

It’s All Good When We’re Sorry

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The wholesome and neighborly geranium flower offers comfort.

Yes, it’s all good when we’re sorry. We should know better. As civilized and cultured human beings, expressions of being sorry should be common place amongst us.  But strangely, it isn’t.

We see it all around us. Actions requiring apology and being sorry. And when it touches us, it empowers us to cry. Sometimes outwardly. Sometimes quietly, deep inside. We cry in sorrow. We cry in happiness. We cry when sorrow touches our soul for someone else, but also for ourself as well.

Apologies and forgiveness are important because intractable conflicts generate such deep and searing emotions. Even after the fighting stops, people still feel the pain, hurt, anger, fear, and hatred that produced the conflict and its horrors in the first place.

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Being sorry isn’t about being weak. Being sorry is about having strength and strong-will toward righteousness, the very quality of being morally right or justifiable when there is injustice or wrongful doing. It is about having honor and being honorable, sometimes against all odds.

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However, in the roaring 1920’s and prior time in history, where men lived an image of toughness and supreme egotistic mentalities, “saying sorry to anyone” was considered a sign of weakness. It just wasn’t vogue. So yes, not saying sorry across the board, wasn’t a sign of intelligence either!

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Making satire, I guess there might have been exceptions. We could guess that a gangster of the Prohibition era might have been known to say, to his mortal enemy, “Sorry bud!’ As he let the roar of a .45 ACP Thompson Submacine gun unsympathetically do all the talking, up in smoke.

The Thompson submachine gun is an American submachine gun, invented by John T. Thompson in 1918, that became infamous during the Prohibition era, becoming a signature weapon of various police syndicates in the United States. It was a common sight in the media of the time, being used by both law enforcement officers and criminals.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Thompson_submachine_gun

Fast forward 100-years to the year 2018, if we have what it takes to acknowledge dignity, humility, honor, self-respect for ourselves and respect for others, and every conceivable amount of DNA to feel sorrow and pain, we can truly give yourself credit in having the capacity in being, Sorry.

Sometimes, it’s not my fault, but I will say I am sorry to help heal the process, in hope that the other person needs more time than I to realize what needs to be done to make it right. And even if we can’t make things right. I want to try.

The power of saying sorry.

Social psychologists know that an apology leads to forgiveness, can recover a spoiled relationship, and may heal indignity. Saying “sorry” denotes that you have chosen your relationship over your your ego.

When was the last time you sincerely felt apologetic?

But what is being apologetic?  What is it being sorry?

a·pol·o·get·ic
əˌpäləˈjedik/
adjective
  1. regretfully acknowledging or excusing an offense or failure.
    “she was very apologetic about the whole incident”
    synonyms: regretfulsorrycontriteremorsefulruefulpenitentrepentant;

…feeling regret, compunction, sympathy, pity, etc.: to be sorry to leave one’s friends; to be sorry for a remark; to be sorry for someone in trouble. regrettable or deplorable; unfortunate; tragic: a sorry situation; to come to a sorry end.

Saying I am sorry, and being sorry, should really displace every word and action of the opposite of being sorry.  Ever step on a little child’s foot? Ever step on your pet dogs paw by accident? Ever accidently bump into someone which caused them to spill a beverage, or knock a hot dog from their mouth?

Ever say something awful to anyone and realize it was inappropriate on all counts? Ever do something utterly stupid, inhumane, vindictive, ugly, to your spouse, parent, grand-parent, sibling, friend, co-worker, or a stranger.

Ever do or say something you normally wouldn’t but let it slip because you’re exhausted from work, personal drama, events and situations just so overwhelming it got the better of your usual self? And ego and pride prevented some kind of act of asking for forgiveness, courtesy, reconciliation?

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Yes, it happens. Yes, we are guilty. Yes, we are stupid. Yes, life isn’t fair but that should not prevent us from changing and making amends. Yes, we can’t always be the “winner” and yes, many times in just wanting to resolve the unforgiving situation, we take the hit. We absorb it even it’s not our fault because we want so much to make something good come out of something bad and unpleasant.

But why should we? Because for every sincere event whereby “I’m sorry” emerged, you witnessed something. Usually. Usually something good comes out of it. And even if it didn’t. You tried. Your DNA knows. Your soul knows. You try to mend, and realize you can give so much more to everyone else who believes as you do: It’s All Good When We’re Sorry!

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I give you credit in doing all you can in finding resolve in any situation whereby you find yourself saying or wanting to say: Gosh, I’m sorry.

I give you credit in being vigil to any situation that arises and your ability to see it, to sense it, to see consequences of being pro-active, of taking action, and even, maybe because you are unable to, not taking any action.

But in the aftermath, be it in discussion with others, be it in having a conscious voice of dissent against injustice, you hold yourself to higher standards that in someway is reflected in you and who you are, in setting an incredible example of good or higher standard of social responsibity!

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